Trying to Preserve Legacy
As an facilitative Mediator, I provide a variety of quality services at competitive rates. My approach is to provide support with insights and feedback to help individuals address their current challenges.
Mediation is NOT Therapy
Both therapy and mediation are sets of techniques and skills that motivate change. Therapy is often viewed as a process of psychological probing which can lead to insight and bring about change. Mediation, on the other hand, is a vehicle to focus on future behaviors regarding a specific conflict between two parties.
In Mediation, we work on the outcome of the conflict, but we do not try to change the dynamics of the parties’ relationship.
Therapy and Mediation both address the emotions of individuals. However, in mediation, the emotion content is important only to the degree that it is necessary to resolve the issues between the parties.
What is Mediation?
Mediation is a process in which one or more impartial mediators assist those in conflict to reach an informed, mutually agreed upon resolution of the issues in dispute. The mediator uses a variety of skills and techniques to help the parties, but does not make any decisions for them.
During facilitative mediation, participants are encouraged to build mutual understanding through direct, facilitated communication, which frequently results in a variety of beneficial outcomes, including: increased understanding of the underlying interests of each party; improved communication, and empathy, improved relationships; avoidance of involvement of the judicial system; resolution of underlying conflict and prevention of reoccurrence of the conflict. The guidance of a skilled mediator is key to the success of the mediation process.
Mediation and the Law?
Mediation is not the practice of law. Many people come to mediation expecting that the mediator will advise them on their legal rights. Litigation is a rights-based process. Mediation is an interest-based process. Mediation will guide you toward and Informed Agreement.
Parenting Plans are mediated with the best interest if the child. It is hoped that the legacy you have developed will continue as you parent together from different locations.
Parenting Plans should foster and encourage the child’s happiness, security, current and future mental health and emotional development.
The best circumstances for enhancing security involves positive and familiar relationship with both parents. You may have fallen out of love with each other, but your child needs to know that you still love them. Parenting parents should have the child’s continued relationship with each parent at the root of the decisions.
- Quicker, less expensive
- Informal, private
- Comprehensive, customized agreements
- Disputants retain control over outcome with problem solving
- Able to check out assumptions with feedback in real time
What to expect?
- Discuss from a point of Good Faith
- Realize that neither party will get everything they want-work with the spirit of compromise
- To be heard